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Could You Be Addicted To Love?

  • Love addicts tend to mistake the 'feel good' highs they derive from intense feelings of love, for intimacy.
  • Love addicts easily confuse new romantic relationships, or intense sexual experiences, with love. 
  • Love addicts tend to feel alone, incomplete, insecure, or lost, when they are not in a relationship.
  • Love addicts in relationship are desperate to please their partner, even when it means to neglect their own needs.
  • Love addicts are terrified to see their partner unhappy due to their own intense fear of abandonment.

FALLING IN LOVE

Falling in love in it’s healthy form takes place between two individuals who feel attracted to one-another, and may, after a period of dating, fall in love. This blissful honeymoon state, also called limerence, is preceding most relationships and is destined to wane after several months. At this point, a relationship may have established with both partners entering into a long-term interrelating commitment, where both partners retain their sense of self and individuality.

WHAT IS LOVE ADDICTION DISORDER

Love addiction, in contrast, is a pathological attachment to a fantasy of love, and to intense feelings of falling in love, without being able to create a true emotional intimacy balance.

Love addicts tend to form obsessional attachment bonds of adoration, passion, romance, and blind love without boundaries, to cost of losing sight of their own needs.

Some love addicts depend on love to a degree of tolerating abuse from their partner, unable to leave their toxic relationship. Women and men can addict to love. Check our FREE love addiction self screening test.

SYMPTOMS OF LOVE ADDICTION

Love addiction may develop upon childhood neglect and deprivation of love and nurture. In later life, the addict finds relief in 'self-medicating' their unfulfilled love hunger with love-fantasy, and real-life, or imagined lovers.

Love addiction occurs in cycles of highs and withdrawal. Withdrawal symptoms occur upon a loss, or perceived loss of love and can include feelings of; rejection, abandonment, grief, despair, anger, spouts of intense unhappiness, love cravings, feelings of worthlessness, depression, and in the extreme, homicidal or suicidal thoughts.

Because love addicts are exposed to considerable risk of filling an almost bottomless need for love in their own lives, they are less able to assess their partners motivation for relationship.

Love addicts derive sharp brain highs from falling in love with, usually, a fantasy of their partner that rarely matches the partner's reality. Subsequently, love addicts quite often experience painful disappointments. 

Some love addicts try to overcome their pain of disappointment by devaluing their partner just as quickly, and filling the gap with pursuing passion with a new partner, or by forming a fantasy bond with a former, or imagined lover.

Love addicts are not primarily concerned with sex, but tend to act out sex to please their partners sexual expectations as a means to bonding. Love addicts are at risk of lacking judgement of how much sex they should give, and may become victims of sexual exploitation.

DEVELOPMENT OF LOVE ADDICTION

Love addiction formation may begin in infancy and later childhood years when a child’s innate need for secure love and safe attachment to their parents, carers, or family are not sufficiently met, or are dysfunctional. Secure love is essential for sound physical, psychological, and emotional development in all humans. Developed love addiction origins from love deprivation in earlier life, and may be seen as a childlike and unconscious attempt for unconditional love filling.

COUNSELLING FOR LOVE ADDICTION

If you find yourself repeatedly in a cycle of consuming love and painful rejection, you may be a love addict. Confidential and specialised love addiction counselling, provided by Sex Addiction Australia, can help you breaking the cycle of addiction, and creating healthy relationships.

For information and booking of confidential consultations please call Heide on (+61) 02 9380 4486 or email info@sexaddictionaustralia.com.au

   

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