Signs of Sex Addiction

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Could you be a love addict?

  • Love addicts tend to mistake intensity for intimacy.
  • Love addicts easily confuse new romantic relationships or intense sexual experiences with love.
  • Love addicts may lose interest in their partner quickly and pursuing new consuming love. 
  • Love addicts tend to feel alone, insecure or lost when not in relationship.
  • Love addicts in relationship are desperate to please their partner even when it means to neglect their own needs, or tolerating partner abuse.
  • Love addicts are terrified to see their partner unhappy due to their intense fear of abandonment.


Falling in love in it’s healthy form takes place between two individuals who feel attracted to one-another, and may, after a period of dating, fall in love. This blissful state, also called limerence, is preceding most relationships and is destined to wane after several weeks or months. At this point, a relationship may have established with partners entering into a long-term commitment agreement, where each participant will retain their sense for individuality, and is able to balance closeness with optimal distance.


Love addiction is a pathological attachment to love fantasies and intense feelings of falling in love, without being really able to create a true emotional intimacy balance.

Love addicts tend to form obsessional attachment bonds of adoration, passion, romance, and blind love, without boundaries or clear recognition of their own needs.

Some love addicts are depending on love to a degree of tolerating abuse from their partner, without being able to leave a toxic relationship. Women and men can addict to love. Check our FREE love addiction self screening test.


Love addiction may develop upon childhood neglect and deprivation of love and nurture. In later life, the addict finds relief in self-medicating love hunger and emotional pain with love-fantasy, and real-life or imagined lovers.

Love addiction occurs in cycles of highs and withdrawal. Withdrawal symptoms occur upon a loss, or a perceived loss, of love and can include feelings of rejection, abandonment, grief, despair, anger, spouts of intense unhappiness, love cravings, feelings of worthlessness, depression, and to the extreme, homicidal or suicidal thoughts.

Because love addicts are exposed to considerable risks of filling an almost bottomless need for love in their own lives, they are less able to assess their partners motivation for relationship.

Love addicts derive sharp brain highs from falling in love with usually a fantasy of their partner, that rarely matches the partner's reality, and often experience subsequent disappointments and triggering painful withdrawal. 

In some cases of disappointment, love addicts devalue or despise their partners just as quickly, and fill the gap by pursuing passion for a new partner, or forming a fantasy bond with a former, or imagined lover.

Love addicts are not primarily concerned with sex, but tend to act out sex to please their partners sexual expectations as a means to bonding. In some cases, love addicts lack judgement of how much sex they should give, and are at risk of sexual exploitation.

If a love addict's partner refuses sexual intimacy for any reason, the love addict may be unable to adequately evaluate their partner's motivation for this refusal, and is vulnerable to misreading a refusal as a message of personal rejection, and may respond with developing self-destructive behaviours.


As common in all addictions, triggers for a later development of love addiction are set in early and later childhood, where the child’s needs for secure love and safe attachment to parents, carers, or family were confusing or dysfunctional. Love addiction may stem from love deprivation in childhood, and can be seen as a childlike, and unconscious need for unconditional love filling.


If you find yourself repeatedly in a cycle of consuming love and painful rejection, you may be a love addict. Confidential and specialised love addiction counselling, provided by Sex Addiction Australia, can help you breaking the cycle of addiction, and creating healthy relationships.

For information and booking of confidential consultations please call Heide on (+61) 02 9380 4486 or email


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