Signs of Sex Addiction

Help For Spouses Of Sex Addicts

Private Counselling for Spouses of Sex Addicts in Australia with Renown Sex Addiction Therapist:: Sydney and Online

Looking for help for spouses of sex addicts? As a wife or spouse of a sex or pornography addict you most certainly experience very serious emotional upheaval upon discovery of your husband's or partner's betrayal. Many spouses of sex addicts experience significant clinical distress and sex-addiction-induced-trauma (SAI-T) and may require treatment from a specialist.

MY HUSBAND IS ADDICTED TO PORN

Expression of healthy sexual intimacy is a wonderful experience of pleasure, relaxation and deep emotional connection. The experience of sex is very different for a sexual addict. Sexual and pornography addictions are disorders of the brain, also termed Progressive Intimacy Disorders. Sex and pornography addiction disorders are characterised by escalations of sexual and pornographic thoughts, obsessive preoccupations with sex, escalations of sexual acts and sexual cravings, regrets, shame and growing isolation. Despite the addicts' awareness of the negative consequences their behaviour is causing, they find themselves unable to stop.

IS YOUR HUSBAND FULLY AWARE OF THE DAMAGE HE IS CAUSING?

As a part of sexual addiction disorder, addicts experience cognitive distortions and spiritual disconnection, and therefore tend to fail to fully appreciate the extend of the damage their behaviour is causing to their spouse and family, and to themselves. As a partner of a sex addict, you may feel helpless and isolated when observing the unfolding of your spouse's addictive problem. Sex Addiction Australia can help with our addiction specific holistic spouse and partner counselling program.

INTERNATIONAL PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION RESEARCH

Research studies in the UK, Germany, US, and Australia have explored the impacts of pornography on the brain, and warn that over-consumption of porn can lead to biological changes in the striatum of the brain. This region of the brain is associated with reward seeking, motivation, and decision-making. Read further research information.

  • More Wives and Spouses of sexual and pornography addicts seek help for coming to terms with their husbands'/parters' sexual betrayal.
  • Sex Addiction Australia can help. We can STOP the vicious cycle of porn and sex addiction. We offer spouse support counselling, sex addiction treatment, relapse prevention, and specialised relationship and marriage counselling.

 

YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME IF YOUR HUSBAND IS ADDICTED TO SEX

Spouses of sex addicts often blame themselves, receive partner blame, or become subjected to destructive criticism from others for their partner's sexual addiction.

In reality, sexual addiction is a disorder of the brain and cannot be caused by another person. You have not contributed to the development of your husband's or partner's sexual addiction. However, you may experience a lack of attraction, a lack of being sexually desired and loved, or unwilling/unable to give sex to your partner. Unresolved marital and sexual intimacy problems may stand in the way, but none can create sexual addiction.

Instead, you are likely to experience an array of devastating and conflicting emotions, linked to sexual betrayal; shock, numbness, disbelief, disgust, emotional constriction, extreme agitation and arousal, disturbed sleep, nightmares, concentration difficulties, struggling to manage daily demands, anger, anxiety, depression, hopelessness, loss of trust, feelings of unworthiness and rejection, humiliation, loss of self-esteem, loss of identity, and more...... and you may blame yourself.

You are NOT crazy, your reactions to such sudden, unexpected and threatening life-changing traumatic events, such as sexual addiction, are normal.

HELPING YOURSELF, THEN HELPING YOUR HUSBAND

Your sex addict husband or boyfriend has lost control over his behaviour. There is no biological evidence that sex addicts have abnormally high sex drives. Successful sex addiction therapy enables sex addicts to fully recover and to develop normal healthy sexual intimacy. If you want to help your husband/partner, you need to help yourself first.

  • Remind yourself of your original goals and agreements in your relationship.
  • Determine what is acceptable behaviour in your relationship, and what is unacceptable.
  • Set firm boundaries.
  • Communicate these boundaries to your addicted husband/partner.
  • Prepare for denial, lying, rejection, and anger as a part of his sexual addiction.
  • Stay focused and firm. NO level of abuse is acceptable.
  • Make your husband's/partner's commitment to recovery a condition for the continuation of your relationship.
  • Get professional spouse support counselling to come to terms with your own emotions. You are likely to experience sex addiction induced trauma (SAI-T) or complex post-traumatic-stress disorder (C-PTSD), triggered by your husband's or boyfriend's betrayal.
  • Sex addiction is a treatable disorder of the brain.
  • Over 70% of couples report they want to salvage their relationship, and solve their traumatic upheaval together.

HOW OUR SPOUSE SUPPORT & SEX ADDICTION THERAPY WORKS

  • The key to full recovery from pornography and sexual addictions lies in the addicts' FULL commitment to therapy, change and recovery, and Sex Addiction Australia's person tailored treatment and relapse prevention program to suit our clients personal circumstances.
  • Our spouse support therapy focuses firmly on your emotional needs as a spouse and partner coming to terms with the traumatic impacts of marital betrayal.
  • Our clinical sex addiction therapist is available for regular, interactive and intensive couples and individual sessions, and will encourage critical feedback and some homework tasks.

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COUNSELLING FOR SPOUSES OF PORNOGRAPHY AND SEX ADDICTS

Your sex addiction relationship and marriage counsellor is available during AEST office hours for further information and confidential appointments. For help for spouses of sex addicts get in touch with Heide 02 9380 4486 or email info@sexaddictionaustralia.com.au

   

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