Signs of Sex Addiction

Result Oriented Sex Addiction Counselling

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The expert sex addiction counselling provided by Sex Addiction Australia's renown specialist is research based, result focused, effective and time and money saving.

Our face to face and online counselling offer therapies and recovery for all types of sexual addiction disorders and for sexual compulsions and hyper-sexuality related behaviours. 

Please Note In addition to our sexual addiction treatments our friendly clinical sex therapist Heide McConkey offers counselling and consulting services for individuals, couples, and families who are living NON-ADDICTIVE, and often misunderstood, sexual Lifestyles And Behaviours. Please contact Heide directly 02 9380 4486 or fill out the Book Online form on top of this page, if you require her sex therapist services.

WHY SEXUAL ADDICTION DEVELOPS

  • Addiction research confirms in addicts genetic predisposition, underlying trauma, and repetitive exposure to current triggers.
  • Sexual addicts use sex/porn/masturbation to avoid stress and feelings of emotional pain.
  • Although sex addicts want to avoid emotional hurt, sexual addictive behaviour always causes more pain in sex addicts, and considerable harm to others.
  • A majority of sex addicts are aware of the consequences their behaviour is causing, but are unable to stop the behaviour(s) on their own.
  • Sex addicts are often too ashamed to ask for help on time, and will only seek professional treatment when their sexual behaviour has spiralled out of control, and their relationships are severely damaged, or when threatened by legal prosecution.

CYCLES OF SEX ADDICTION BEHAVIOUR

The addictive need to act out sex does not reinforce its intensity every day, but rather occurs periodically and in repetitive cycles as described below;

  • Frequent intrusive sexual thoughts and persistent sexual preoccupation.
  • Sexual fantasy and 'setting the stage'.
  • Ritualistic leading up behaviours, self-comforting, getting in the mood.
  • Acting out sexual behaviour.
  • Short-term feelings of serenity and relief from stress and emotional pain.
  • Soon followed by regrets, shame, guilt, self-loathing.
  • Lack of fulfilment, emptiness.
  • Persistent cravings.
  • Unsuccessful attempts to permanently stop or cutting down acting out behaviours.
  • Chronic relapse.

THREE STAGES OF COMPULSIVE SEX ACTING OUT BEHAVIOURS

Sexual acting-out behaviours may be broken down into three stages, differing in gravity, impact, and consequences. The majority of sexual addicts display behaviours as outlined in stage one only, and will NOT progress to stages two and three behaviours.

A smaller number of sexual addicts displays behaviours as explained in stage two, placing them either at risk of offending against the Australian law, or may already have committed an offence. Sexual behaviours as described in stage three are only acted out by a small number of sexual addicts, who can be classified 'Sex Offender'. Please note, we cannot provide sex addiction counselling services to persons who are sex offenders.

STAGE ONE OF COMPULSIVE SEX ACTING OUT BEHAVIOURS

  • Compulsive and excessive masturbation; masturbation may either be acted out with high frequency, or over prolonged periods of time.
  • Compulsive and excessive use of pornography with or without masturbation; pornographic materials may be used with high frequency, or over prolonged periods of time.
  • Compulsive use of Internet sex; including chat-rooms, dating sites, videos, and social media.
  • Compulsive use of telephone-sex.
  • Compulsive relationships.
  • Multiple sexual partners.
  • Anonymous sex.
  • Compulsive use of sex workers.
  • Compulsive intimacy avoidance, sexual anorexia.
  • Paraphilias, behaviours not offending against the law.

STAGE TWO OF COMPULSIVE SEX ACTING OUT BEHAVIOURS

  • Exhibitionism.
  • Voyeurism.
  • Indecent and non-consensual phone calls with sexual content.
  • Frotteurism sexual touching without permission, often acted out in crowded places and may be disguised as ‘accidental’ touch or rubbing.
  • Violation of sexual boundaries, such as abuse of power in return for sexual favours.
  • Paraphilias (may offend against the law).

STAGE THREE OF COMPULSIVE SEX ACTING OUT BEHAVIOURS

  • Sexual behaviours involving violence and threat.
  • Rape.
  • Incest.
  • Child sexual abuse.
  • Child molestation.
  • Child pornography; including using, downloading, producing, and distributing pornographic images of children, or written text with sexual content of children.
  • Paraphilias, behaviours offending against the law.

CONSEQUENCES OF UNTREATED SEX ADDICTION

  • Ruptured relationships.
  • Gradual decline in intimacy, contentment, fulfilment, meaning and connection with partner.
  • Pornography induced erectile dysfunction (PIED).
  • Loss of partner, relationship, marriage, and family.
  • Loss of workplace
  • Loss of business, prestige, self-respect.
  • Diminished self-esteem.
  • Guilt, shame, disconnect.
  • Difficulties with meeting marital, professional and social demands.
  • Financial losses, hardship.
  • Social isolation.
  • Anxiety.
  • Depression.
  • Legal prosecutions.
  • Imprisonment.

GET HELP from our sex addiction specialists. Our sex therapy is tailored to our clients’ individual needs. We offer both, face-to-face and online counselling.

NOTE SEX ADDICTION AUSTRALIA HAS A MANDATORY REPORTING DUTY IN THE EVENT OF CRIME. IF YOU HAVE NOT YET OFFENDED, BUT YOU ARE AT RISK TO OFFEND, SEX ADDICTION AUSTRALIA CAN HELP. Please refer to our LEGAL information page

EXPERT SEX ADDICTION COUNSELLING AND RELAPSE PREVENTION

For further information about our face-to-face or online counselling or booking a confidential appointment please contact Sex Addiction Australia during AEST business hours, call Heide (+61) 02 9380 4486 or email info@sexaddictionaustralia.com.au

   

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