Counselling for Cross-Dressers By Renowned Sex Therapist in Sydney And Online

The word cross-dresser refers to dressing as the opposite gender. Crossdressing is not linked to sexual addiction. Crossdressing has historically occurred in societies, and is not always linked to sexuality. Cross-dressers may also be stage artists, fun loving party-goers, fashionistas with uni-sex outfits, or individuals disguising their gender to avoid discrimination. Some individuals may purposefully cross-dress to avoid social stereotype and find stress relief in the opposite gender role.


Crossdressing is a poorly understood and often misjudged behaviour. In most societies, where gender roles are stereotyped, cross-dressers push the boundaries. It is unclear at what age crossdressing behaviours may manifest. In some cases of individual history, the behaviour can be traced back to childhood events, but more likely, crossdressing is linked to congenital gender dysmorphia.

The need to cross-dress can be intense. Cross-dressers are typically clear on their biological gender, but feel strong emotional urges to temporarily express themselves as the opposite gender. Such need for gender-switching may, or may not, be accompanied by sexual arousal. Crossdressing does not indicate a desire to permanently change one’s gender or sexual orientation.

Sexual orientation and crossdressing behaviour are not linked. Cross-dressers may be heterosexual, homosexual, bi-sexual, fluid, or asexual, with a same distribution of sexual identities as common to all communities.


Crossdressing behaviour may cause gender conflict and severe distress in relationship, family, and personal life. Individuals, couples, and families can benefit from our clinical gender and relationship counselling and learn to understand the phenomena of crossdressing, and how to establish sound boundaries in regards to personal needs and safety, while enabling mutual respect and acceptance, and moving forward in friendship, love and harmony.


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