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Depression in Sex Addicts

Sex Addicts and their partners may suffer from depression as part of sexual addiction and betrayal. For the sexually addicted person, depression and/or anxiety disorder may underlay their addictive behavioural development. Their spouse or partner may suffer depression as an acute response to experiencing existential betrayal and rejection, caused by their partner’s sexual addiction. At this point, both, the sex addict and their partner, require professional and specialist sex addiction counselling and treatment to heal their trauma.


A major depressive episode is consistent with at least a two week period of severe sadness. The affected person is easily upset and often teary, with symptoms of depressed mood and may lose almost all interest and pleasure in their daily life activities.

This (depressive) state of mood represents a change from the person’s normal state of mood. Important functioning is negatively impaired by that change in mood, in nearly all aspects of their daily life; e.g. social, sexual, relational, occupational or educational.

Note – a depressed mood caused by any abuse of substances such as drugs, alcohol, medication, or a general medical condition is not considered a major depressive episode. But substance abuse may occur in response to a depressive mood, or may create or deepen a depressive episode.

A major depressive episode includes the following symptoms

  • depressed mood most of the day
  • markedly diminished interest or pleasure in all, or almost all, activities
  • significant weight loss or weight gain when not dieting
  • decrease or increase in appetite nearly every day
  • insomnia or hypersomnia
  • fatigue or loss of energy
  • feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness
  • excessive or inappropriate guilt
  • diminished ability to think or concentrate
  • indecisiveness, irritability, lethargy
  • recurrent thoughts of death, suicide, a suicide attempt or a specific plan for committing suicide

If you have recurrent suicidal thoughts it is important to immediately contact your doctor, counsellor or local hospital. Depression is a treatable disorder. Call Lifeline 13 11 14 for immediate help.

The following symptoms, although less discussed, may also be linked to depression including;

  • anger
  • body aches
  • irritable bowel syndrome
  • slow movements


Dysthymia in adults is characterised by a moderate chronic state of depression, with depressed mood for most days for at least a two year period.

The symptoms in this two year period with no more than a month of symptomatic absence include

  • poor appetite or overeating
  • insomnia or hypersomnia
  • low energy or fatigue
  • low self-esteem
  • poor concentration
  • difficulty making decisions
  • sadness and feelings of hopelessness

The symptoms of dysthymia and depression may cause significant distress or impairment in important areas of a person’s daily life, including; social, sexual, relational, occupational and educational functioning.


Depression is a treatable disorder. Professional Counselling and Psychotherapy are powerful tools in prevention and treatment of depression. 

In severe cases of depression, treatment from a medical practitioner is required. Affirmotive Sex Addiction Australia (ASAA) will recommend referral to a medical doctor to initiate a dual treatment approach for best therapy outcomes.

If you are concerned with depression please call Heide McConkey +61 2 9380 4486 during business hours and book a confidential appointment, or obtain professional advise.