Signs of Sex Addiction

Female Sexual Addiction 

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Female sexual addiction disorder is little different from male sexual addiction disorder, however female sex addiction is rarely spoken about and therefore sex addicted women are less likely to identify their problem and seek help. A common belief classifies sex addiction as a predominant male problem. In reality, women of any age or social standing, sexual orientation, culture, or ethnic background can become caught up in the cycle of sexual addiction.


Female sexuality has been historically controversial. At the beginning of the last century, women were believed to not being able to experience sexual pleasure and orgasm, and therefore not missing it. A common expectation, past and present, associates female sexual fulfilment with relationship attachment.

The contemporary and sexually independent, confident, educated and sexually aware woman may experience admiration or envy, indifference or shaming, even rejection of her sexuality. The controversy of fully understanding and accepting female sexuality in society is ongoing.

Women, who are passing through a phase of conscience sexual and personal development, and freely experimenting with, and discovering their sexuality, are NOT sex addicts. These women simply learn to embrace their sexual abilities by getting in tune with their own sexual bodies, and by becoming familiar with how their sensual and sexual bodies work; thus learning the integration of their sexual spirituality. These are practises men have engaged in throughout the ages, and are not related to sexual addiction.


Female sexual addiction disorder, like their male counterpart, is characterised by compulsive escalations of sexual acts and fantasies, and by escalations of sexual intensity to the expense of progressive emotional and sexual intimacy erosion.

There is no biological evidence of abnormal high sex drives in women suffering from sex addiction. Rather, sexually addicted women rely on the neurological and biochemical effects of sex to manage their lives and unconsciously regulate underlying emotional pain and unresolved impacts of earlier life trauma. 

Sex addicted women may use sex without, or with diminished, emotional attachment to their sexual partners, who merely function for the sex addict as interchangeable sexual 'objects'.

Sex addiction means not being able to stop and permanently abstain from one's sexual compulsive behaviours, despite being fully aware of the negative consequences such behaviours may be causing. Female sexual addiction can be identified when sex has become the defining order in a woman's life, and when sex is overriding her interests in other vital aspects of her personal or professional life. 

Female sexual addiction is often confused with love addiction. Love addicts are not addict to sex, and can be male or female. For further information on love addiction please see over to our designated page Love Addiction.


Female sexual addiction behaviours can find expression in multiple forms, and in some cases may be motivated by a need for power. Acting out sexual addictive behaviours may include multiple forms of masturbation and auto erotica, online sex, seduction, grooming, affairs, multiple partners, role-play, exhibitionism, swinging, trading sex, and/or consuming, producing, acting commercial or amateur pornography. 

As common in all addiction, lasting satisfaction cannot be achieved and cravings return. Moderate to serious mood swings become noticeable, and in some cases, may top peaking in intense frustration or violent anger when sex is unattainable. (related to SRD or Sexual Rage Disorder). Sex addiction is a brain disorder of acquired 'faulty wiring' of the pleasure reward circuits in the meso-limbic brain region. Here, the brain has addicted to it's own exaggerated dopamine and endorphin highs, triggered by chronic compulsive sexual fantasy and/or hyper sexual activity. Please read further information on our designated pages Sexual Addictions and Sex Addiction Research and Information.


More women addict to pornography, with an estimated 3% of woman being reported to be porn and sex addicts, according to US studies, in contrast to their male counterparts of about 8-10% of male porn and sex addicts. In recent years, more women use pornography as an accepted form of entertainment. With increased exposure to porn, a growing number of women may be at risk to addict to pornography.


If you think you, or a loved-one, may have addicted to sex, or if you are concerned about aspects of your own sexuality, book an appointment or call Heide 02 9380 4486 during AEST office hours, partners are welcome, or email


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