Signs of Sex Addiction

Female Sexual Addiction

Counselling Women Addicted to Sex::Sydney and Online

Female sexual addiction disorder is little different from male sexual addiction disorder, although a common belief classifies sexual addiction as an exclusively male problem. Women of any age or social standing, sexual orientation, culture, or ethnic background can become caught up in the cycle of sexual addiction.


Female sexuality has been historically controversial. At the beginning of the last century women were believed to not being able to experience sexual pleasure and orgasm and therefore not missing it. A common expectation, past and present, associates female sexual fulfilment with relationship attachment.

The contemporary and sexually independent, confident, educated and sexually active woman may experience admiration or envy, indifference or shaming, even rejection of her sexuality. The controversy of fully understanding and accepting female sexuality in society is ongoing.

Women who embark on a self discovery tour and freely experiment with their sexuality by learning multiple forms of self-pleasuring, or by engaging with a number of sexual partners form either sex are NOT sex addicts. These women simply embrace their sexual abilities by getting in tune with their own sexual bodies and becoming familiar with how their sensual and sexual bodies work; thus learning the integration of their sexual spirituality. These are practises men have engaged in throughout the ages.


Female sexual addiction disorder, like their male counterpart, is characterised by compulsive escalations of sexual acts and fantasies in order to achieve a brain 'high', a short-lived state of delusion of feeling great and powerful.

There is no biological evidence of non-normative sex drives in female sex addicts. Rather, sexual addicts rely on the biochemical effects of sex to manage their lives and in doing so unconsciously self-regulate the effects of underlying trauma, stress, anxiety, depression, other emotional pain, and any number of negative mood states.

A sex addict, male or female, typically uses sex without or with diminished emotional attachment. Sexual partners are used as mere sexual objects.

Female sexual addiction is often confused with love addiction It is important to separate female sex addiction from love addiction. Love addicts mostly do not addict to sex, and can be male or female or any gender. For further information on love addiction please see over to our designated page Love Addiction.


Female sexual addiction can find expression in multiple forms and is often motivated by power; they can include seduction, affairs, multiple partners, role-play and exhibitionism, swinging, trading sex, and also using or producing (acting) commercial or amateur pornography. Some may addict to one person only, often to their own partner, and act out extended sex and grooming behaviours in pursuit to achieve their own sexual goals. Partners may feel cherished at first, and may not see the seriousness of their spouses sexual addiction disorder.

As common in all addiction, lasting satisfaction cannot be achieved, cravings return and moderate to serious mood swings become noticeable and may peaking in intense frustration or violent anger, (related to SRD or Sexual Rage Disorder). Sex addiction is a brain state of altered wiring of the pleasure reward circuit in the meso-limbic region, and where the brain has addicted to it's own exaggerated dopamine and endorphin highs derived from sexual preoccupation, sexual activity and orgasm. Not getting it can promote similar reactions of extreme frustration, agitation or even violence as seen in drug addicts where their drug of choice is unattainable. Please read further information on our designated pages Sexual Addictions and Sex Addiction Research and Information.

Sex addiction means not being able to stop and permanently abstain from the damaging behaviour despite being fully aware of the consequences. Female sexual addiction exists where sex has taken centre stage in a woman's life, and where sex has become her defining order overriding her ability to practise safety and self care, or interfering with her daily demands related to relationship, children, family, and her social and professional life.


More women addict to pornography, with an estimated 3% of woman being reported to be porn and sex addicts, according to US studies, in contrast to their male counterparts of about 8-10% of male porn and sex addicts. In recent years, more women use pornography as an accepted form of entertainment. With increased exposure, a growing number of women may be at risk to addict to pornography.


If you think you may have addicted to sex, or if you are concerned about aspects of your sexuality, book an appointment or call Heide 02 9380 4486 during AEST office hours, partners are welcome, or email


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