Female Sex Addiction

Private Confidential Counselling For Women With Sex Addiction By Renowned Sex Therapist In Sydney & Online


Female sex addiction is a sexual addiction rarely spoken about and the reason why women are less likely to identify their problem and seek help. A common belief classifies sex addiction as a predominant male problem. In reality, women of any age or social standing, and of any sexual orientation, culture, or ethnic background can become caught up in the cycle of sexual addiction.


Female sexuality has been historically confusing, feared, shamed, denied and controversial. Not so long ago in western culture, women were believed to not having any sexual desire or a biological sex drive. Common expectations used to associate female sexual needs and fulfillment exclusively with relationship attachment and motherhood.

In reality, women past and present, who are experimenting with their sexuality and attractiveness are not sexually abnormal, or addicts. These women simply learn to embrace their sexuality by getting in touch with their sexual and sensual body. This is a natural integration process of healthy sexuality and female sexual spirituality.


Female sex addiction disorder is characterised by escalations of compulsive sexual fantasies and sexual acts, escalations of sexual intensity, and progressive emotional intimacy erosion.

There is no biological evidence of abnormal high sex drive in women with sex addiction. Rather, and common in hypersexual disorder, female sex addicts rely on neurochemically induced ‘brain highs’ for motivation and coping. Sex addicts experience their sexual ‘highs’ as euphoria and relief as a result of increased dopamine and opioid peptide activity in their brain’s reward circuits. ‘Highs’ are short lived and soon followed by ‘lows’ of dysphoria, dissatisfaction, agitation, anger, irritability and mood swings. To remedy ‘lows’, female sex addicts must repeat their merciless cycle of toxic sex addiction by acting out more sex.

The term ‘sex addict’ describes a person who is unable to stop, or permanently abstain from their sexual compulsions despite being fully aware of the dangers and negative consequences their behaviour is bearing. Female sexual addiction can be identified where sex has become a controlling order in her life, where sex is overriding her essential needs for survival including personal safety, and where sex is interfering with her ability in making sound decisions and prioritising vital aspects of her  life, including personal and sexual health, her spiritual, professional, marital, maternal, social, or financial well being.


Female sex addiction behaviours and symptoms can find expression in multiple forms, and may, but not exclusively, be motivated by power.

  • Unrealistic sexual expectations in relationship, e.g, intensity, frequency, acts
  • Compulsive masturbation
  • Auto erotica
  • Online sex
  • Sexting
  • Seduction
  • Affairs
  • Multiple partners
  • Sex with strangers
  • Sex in dangerous places
  • Roleplay
  • Pain Sensation Power Exchange
  • Swinging
  • Trading sex
  • Sex work
  • Consuming, producing, acting commercial or amateur pornography
  • As common in all female sexual addictions, lasting satisfaction can never be achieved, and cravings return. Moderate to serious mood swings become noticeable and may peak in intense frustration or violent anger when sex is unattainable. (related to SRD or Sexual Rage Disorder). Sex addiction is a brain disorder of acquired ‘faulty wiring’ of the pleasure, motivation, and dominance reward circuitries in the meso-limbic brain region. The brain has addicted to its own need for exaggerated dopamine and endorphin highs when triggered by emotional states, sexual fantasy, or opportunity to act out sex. Please read further information on our designated pages  Sexual Addiction and  Sex Addiction Research and Information.


In recent years, an estimated 3% of female sex addicts are represented in US sex and pornography addiction statistics compared to an estimated 8% of sexally addicted males. With a growing acceptance of Internet pornography and easy access, more women may be at risk to addict to pornography.


Help is on hand if you have concerns about a personal sexual addiction. Please Enquire Or Book Online or contact our discreet and confidential sex addiction specialist and professional counsellor Heide in Sydney directly (+61) 02 9380 4486 or email  info@sexaddictionaustalia.com.au