Signs of Sex Addiction

Gay Men Counselling For Sex Addiction

Counselling for Gay Men In Sydney And Online::Sexual Addiction

Professional Gay Counselling for individuals and couples, who are affected by sexual addiction and other complex relationship issues, is offered by Sex Addiction Australia to suit the specific needs and circumstances of gay men. Sex addiction therapist and relationships counsellor Heide McConkey has successfully helped many gay couples and individuals with overcoming sexual addiction disorders, and other complex personal and relationship issues, since 1998.


Sexual addiction is believed to be a brain disorder, where the brain has undergone biological change. Researchers warn that long term over-consumption of pornography and sexual arousal, disregarding of sexual orientation, can lead to a certain loss of grey matter and a faulty 'wiring' in the limbic brain circuitry associated with emotions, motivation, reward and pleasure.

There is no biological evidence that sex addicts have abnormal sex drives. In-fact, treated sex addicts are able to return to healthy and enjoyable sexual intimacy and relationships. 

Sexual addiction cannot be defined by orientation, frequency or type of sexual behaviour. Gay sex is NOT related to addiction, but gay men can addict to sex. 

Sex Addiction Australia's purposefully designed intensive treatment and relapse prevention plan can STOP sexual addiction in gay men, helping their partners and facilitate a return to non-compulsive and healthy sexuality.


Untreated sexual addiction disorder in gay men may result in destruction of intimacy and negatively affecting trust and respect in his intimate relationship(s). Untreated sexual addiction commonly causes feelings in sex addicts of gradually losing control including; in some addicts developing a sense of uniqueness and sexual grandeur over the men who fall for them, increased stress and anxiety, anger, feelings of depression shame and guilt and hopelessness over their situation. This may escalate into a further loss of self respect, despair and social isolation. In some cases of sexual addiction, losses of large amounts of money, or losing business or workplace, and commonly losing friends and family are additional consequences. Despite the addict's full awareness of the threatening consequences their behaviour is causing, he is unable to stop himself. Many sex addicts, inside or outside the gay community, can testify to multiple and serious attempts to stop their behaviours, and to relapsing just as many times. Spiritual disconnection and cognitive distortion are a part of untreated sexual addiction.


Without intensive sex addiction therapy, the addictive pattern is likely to continue. Our specific counselling program for sexual addiction treatment in gay men, developed by Sex Addiction Australia, has proven to successfully stop sexual addiction in gay men, and to facilitate relapse prevention and full recovery.

To book a confidential individual or couples appointment please call Heide during AEST office hours 02 9380 4486 or email



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