Signs of Sex Addiction

Gay Men Counselling

Counselling for Gay Men In Sydney And Online::Sexual Addiction

Professional Gay Counselling for individuals and couples who are affected by sexual addiction and other sexually related issues is offered by Affirmotive Sex Addiction Australia (ASAA), to suit the specific needs and circumstances of gay men. Sex addiction therapist and relationships counsellor Heide McConkey has successfully helped the gay community with overcoming sexual addiction disorders and complex personal, relationship, and family upheaval, since 1998.


Sexual addiction is believed to be a brain disorder, where the brain has undergone biological change. Researcherswarn that long term over-consumption of pornography and sex can lead to a certain loss of grey matter (brain cells), and to faulty 'wiring' in the limbic brain circuitry associated with emotions, motivation, reward, and pleasure.

There is no biological evidence that sex addicts have abnormal high sex drives. In-fact, successfully treated sex addicts were able to return to healthy sex and functioning relationships. 

Sexual addiction cannot be defined by sexual orientation, frequency, or type of sexual behaviour. Gay sex is NOT related to addiction, but gay men can addict to sex. 

Sex Addiction Australia's purposefully designed treatment and relapse prevention plan can STOP sexual addiction in gay men, help and support their partners, and facilitate a return to healthy intimacy. 


The narcissistic nature of sexual addiction tends to severely disrupt intimacy in gay couples. Untreated sexual addiction causes feelings in sex addicts of gradually losing control over reality in their lives. Some sex addicts will develop a sense of uniqueness and sexual grandeur over the men who fall for them. Commonly, untreated sex addicts experience ever increasing feelings of unmanageably of their emotions, which is leading to even higher stress and anxiety levels, and to associated negative mood swings and sexual cravings. In some cases of sex addiction, such mood swings are evidenced in Sexually Related Rage Disorder (SARD). Untreated sex addicts may fall into depression and social isolation. Despite the addict's full awareness of any threatening outcomes their behaviour is causing, he is unable to stop himself. Sex addicts, inside or outside the gay community, can testify to multiple and serious attempts to stop their addictive behaviours, and to relapsing just as many times. Diminished impulse control, spiritual disconnection, and cognitive distortion play a part in untreated sexual addiction.


Without intensive sex addiction therapy, the addictive pattern is likely to continue. Our specific counselling program for sexual addiction treatment in gay men, developed by ASAA, has proven to successfully stop sexual addiction in gay men, and to facilitate relapse prevention and full recovery.

To book a confidential individual or couples appointment please call Heide during AEST office hours 02 9380 4486 or email



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