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Sexual Orientation

Sexual Orientation Counselling Sydney And Online Sex Addiction Australia

Sexologists distinguish between four sexual orientations in humans.

  • Heterosexual
  • Homosexual
  • Fluid
  • Bi-sexual

Human sexual orientation locus is not fixed, but may develop over a lifetime. While heterosexuality represents nature’s pre-selection for some 80% of population, this may not be accurate for individuals of diverse sexual orientations. Many people experience no conflict with their sexual orientation. For others however, sexual orientation creates much confusion, stress, and anxiety.

  • All sexual orientations are normal in nature.
  • Sexual orientations are assigned at birth and cannot be manipulated to social adaptation.
  • Diverse sexual orientations are not linked to sexual addiction.

In most contemporary societies, heterosexuality is the only accepted form of sexual orientation. This view is easing in recent times. The word ‘homosexuality’ only exists for about 100 years. Freud referred to anal penetration as ‘immaturity’, and Queen Victoria anecdotally declared that ‘it would not be possible for two women to be sexual with each other’. Even in modern times, some countries legally punish homosexuality in men.

In 1948, Alfred Kinsey developed a concept of the ‘Sexual Continuum’. His intensive studies of human sexuality convinced him to believe that sexual orientations are not necessarily fixed over a lifetime, but can be fluid.

Michael Ross discusses concepts of sexual identity and behaviour. Ross concludes ‘a person’s sexual behaviour may not necessarily be in line with their sexual orientation’.


Many people in relationship or single, ring my office to clarify confusion over their sexual identity. They report disturbing sexual fantasies or sexual attraction to same sex partners or transsexuals. Others have acted out sex with consensual same sex participants, or transsexual partners, and are worried about their sexual identity.

Substantial fears of social judgement and rejection can prevent homosexual oriented people  from ‘coming out’ and from living a harmonious and dignified lifestyle according to who they are. Under pressure of social expectation, some same sex oriented men and women try to adapt to heterosexuality, often with devastating outcomes to their mental wellbeing.

Others, who identify as fluid, bi-sexual, or asexual, may experience own internal homophobia and question their sexual identity. Untreated internal homophobia may come to a high cost.

  • Unhappiness
  • Social isolation
  • Self-hatred
  • Self harming
  • Anxiety
  • Anger
  • Arrogance
  • Rejection and self-rejection
  • Psychosomatic symptoms
  • Acute and chronic illness
  • Severe depression
  • Suicide


Sex therapist Heide McConkey is available during AEST office hours in Sydney and online for information and for booking a confidential consultation. Call (+61) 02 9380 4486 or email