Sexual Orientation Counselling Sydney And Online::Sex Addiction
Sexologists distinguish between five sexual orientations in humans.
Sexual orientation locus is not fixed, but may be developing over a lifetime. A conflict may arise for a person who may have been taught to identifying oneself as heterosexual, and, while heterosexuality represents nature’s pre-selection for some 80% of population, this may not be accurate for individuals of diverse sexual orientations. Many people experience no conflict with their sexual orientation. For others however, sexual orientation creates much confusion, stress, and anxiety.
- All sexual orientations are normal selections in nature.
- Sexual orientation cannot be manipulated to social adaptation.
- Sexual orientations are NOT sexual addiction.
In many contemporary societies, heterosexuality is the only accepted form of sexual orientation, with an easing of this view in recent times. The word ‘homosexuality’ only exists for about 100 years. Freud referred to anal penetration as ‘immaturity’, and Queen Victoria anecdotally declared that ‘it would not be possible for two women to be sexual with each other’. Even in modern times, some countries legally punish homosexuality in men.
In 1948, Alfred Kinsey developed the concept of the ‘Sexual Continuum’. His intensive studies of human sexuality convinced him to believe that sexual orientations are not fixed, but fluid.
Michael Ross discusses concepts of sexual identity and behaviour. Ross concludes, a person’s sexual behaviour may not necessarily be in line with their sexual orientation.
SEXUAL IDENTITY CONFLICT
Many people, living in relationships or single, ring my office to clarify confusion over their sexual identity, with many reporting disturbing fantasies or sexual attraction to same sex partners, or to transsexual partners. Others have acted out sex with consensual same sex participants, or transsexual partners, and are worried, scared, and confused, about their sexual identity.
Fear of social judgementt and rejection may prevent some persons with homosexual orientation from ‘coming out’ and from living a harmonious and dignified life. Instead, they may try adapting to a heterosexual life-style, often with devastating outcomes.
Others, who identify as fluid, bi-sexual, or asexual may experience confusion in regards to their sexual identity, and may seek counsel for clarification. The cost of living against one’s natural sexual orientation is usually high, and may result in;
- Social isolation
- Rejection and self-rejection
- External and internal homophobia