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If you have just discovered that your partner has been engaging in secret sexual behaviour, the most useful thing to know in the first days is this: you do not have to decide anything about the relationship right now. Not today, not this week. The...
The co-occurrence of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and compulsive sexual behaviour disorder (CSBD) is far more common in clinical practice than the general public recognises. For people who carry both, the interaction between the two conditions creates a presentation that is often more complex,...
Recovery from compulsive sexual behaviour disorder (CSBD) takes place in real life, in real families. For parents in recovery, the process of facing and addressing their behaviour happens alongside the daily realities of school runs, homework, bedtimes, and the complex emotional demands of raising children....
Ask many people in treatment for compulsive sexual behaviour disorder (CSBD) to describe what they were feeling in the moments before acting out, and a surprisingly consistent answer emerges: nothing. Or more precisely: an uncomfortable nothing, a flatness, a restlessness, a need to feel something....
Sexual fantasy is a normal part of human sexuality. It is also, in the context of compulsive sexual behaviour disorder (CSBD), one of the least-discussed aspects of how the condition develops, maintains, and escalates. Many people in the early stages of seeking help for sexual...
One of the most confusing and painful aspects of compulsive sexual behaviour disorder (CSBD) is the persistence of the behaviour even when the person experiencing it genuinely does not want to continue. People in the grip of sexual compulsivity often express the same bewilderment: I...
In the aftermath of a sex addiction disclosure, the need to know feels enormous. For the betrayed partner, finding out the extent of the deception creates an understandable and deeply human drive to verify: to check that the person who lied to them is now...
One of the most common questions asked by both sex addicts in early recovery and their partners is some version of the same thing: how long until things are normal again? It is a completely understandable question. Both partners are exhausted. Both have been living...
Discovering that a partner has been engaging in secret sexual behaviour, whether through pornography addiction, affairs, paid sexual encounters, or other forms of sexual deception, is not simply a painful experience. For many partners, it is a psychologically traumatic one. The ground beneath their reality...