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One of the most confusing and painful aspects of compulsive sexual behaviour disorder (CSBD) is the persistence of the behaviour even when the person experiencing it genuinely does not want to continue. People in the grip of sexual compulsivity often express the same bewilderment: I...
In the aftermath of a sex addiction disclosure, the need to know feels enormous. For the betrayed partner, finding out the extent of the deception creates an understandable and deeply human drive to verify: to check that the person who lied to them is now...
One of the most common questions asked by both sex addicts in early recovery and their partners is some version of the same thing: how long until things are normal again? It is a completely understandable question. Both partners are exhausted. Both have been living...
Discovering that a partner has been engaging in secret sexual behaviour, whether through pornography addiction, affairs, paid sexual encounters, or other forms of sexual deception, is not simply a painful experience. For many partners, it is a psychologically traumatic one. The ground beneath their reality...
When we look honestly at the lives of people struggling with sex or pornography addiction, we often find something that has less to do with sex and more to do with their earliest experiences of closeness and safety. Attachment theory, one of the most well-supported...
Most people who develop a compulsive relationship with pornography assume the problem is about sex. It looks like it is about sex. It happens in the context of sexuality. But for the majority of people seeking help for compulsive pornography use, the driving force behind...
One of the most common questions couples face in the aftermath of a sexual addiction disclosure is whether to begin couples therapy. The question makes sense. The relationship has been shaken. Both people are in pain. It seems logical that working on the relationship together,...
A conversation that happens with striking regularity in sessions with people seeking help for sex or pornography addiction goes something like this: they have been trying to stop for years. They have made resolutions. They have deleted apps, installed filters, made promises to partners or...
When a partner discovers that the person they love and have built their life with has been living a secret sexual life, the emotional impact is profound and disorienting. The discoveries often do not arrive in one clear moment but accumulate in waves: first a...